Nick Kiddle

sparsityproblem, posting in ftm @ 4:10pm: International travel, US passports?
Hello,

Has anyone:
- boarded an international flight originating in the US with a US passport that lists a typically-male first name and an 'F' gender marker;
- gone through customs in Europe with a passport fitting the above description?

If so, what was your experience like?

I'm asking because I just had my first experience being hassled over the gender marker on my ID not matching my name and appearance (at the airport boarding a domestic flight on the way back from from having top surgery), and have a trip to the Netherlands and UK coming up. I'm concerned that my ID will be challenged and I won't be able to board the flight. Aside from issues of whether I want to change my ID, I probably don't have enough time to before I leave. When I got hassled, I basically just said, "Yes, that's my legal name, and that's my legal sex," and refused to disclose anything else; they let me board eventually, but I'm not sure I want to risk getting turned away at customs on the other side of the ocean because they don't like what my passport says.

I'm not looking for advice on what to do or for comments from anybody who hasn't been in the situation I'm describing -- only for examples of people's actual experiences. Thanks in advance.

kiwi_grrl @ 1:12pm: Trauma is ...
... giving up your babies ...



The above is my primary bookcase in my bedroom, and all the books I'm having to give away. But that's not all ... immediately below is my secondary bookcase in my bedroom, with more books I have to give away. I even have more books on my bedside tables, but I'm not taking pics of those as well ...



And, naturally, that's not it either, as below is my office, where most of my academic texts reside ... again books I'm having to give away.



They're just too heavy ... this isn't like a move across the city, or the state, or even to elsewhere in the US of Canada. No, this is a move to the other side of the planet, and weight matters. So I'm having to give up my babies ...

*sob!*

hexyhex @ 1:59am: From Twitter 07-09-2009

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q_transphobia @ 2:38pm: Coverage of Lateisha Green trial next week

http://questioningtransphobia.wordpress.com/2009/07/09/coverage-of-lateisha-green-trial-next-week/

http://questioningtransphobia.wordpress.com/?p=1616

cbpotts @ 10:06am: That's Not Thunder, It's My Tummy!
Tim made a celebration dinner last night, to commemorate getting a new job...and today, our tummies are paying for it. Very rich spaghetti sauce can be lovely -- but it can make you not a happy camper, as well.

Blergh.

But if that's the worst thing that happens today, it's going to be a good day. I have SO MUCH catching up to do it's not even funny. Had a very surreal experience last night, reading a book and finding it shot full of quotes from my clients: that's a brain breaker right there. It's one thing to see my folks in books I write, it's another thing entirely when they're someone else's gurus. Cool and peculiar all at once.

Now it's time to blog for dollars...Onward, upward, forward, y'all!

uniquelybullish, posting in ftm @ 8:39am: Man-go f*** yourself.
Hey,

So I'm pissed off about mango products taking advantage of ftms by breaching their contract and never dishing out the products, did someone file a class action suit against them? Anyone know of a lawyer who would be up on it.

Thanks.
N

xxasimont, posting in transparents @ 9:20pm: Grandpa (FTM) with new granddaughter




Just wanted to share my delight at my new granddaughter, Emily. Being a grandparent is wonderful, being a grandpa (Poppy)to 3 grandkids when you were Mum to both their mothers is extra special. To finally be myself, and be totally accepted by your kids and grandkids is something I think only other trans people (parents, would be parents, grandparents) can truly appreciate.
Thanks for letting me share
Poppy Simon

xxasimont @ 9:01pm: A GRANDPA AGAIN - WELCOME EMILY!!!
One very excited Grandpa. On 7 July, Emily Grace Villiers Maynard was born at Ballarat Base Hospital. She is absolutely beautiful! The photo of her with me is when she was a whole day old, the other two, with Mummy and with Mummy and big brother Josh, she was less than an hour old!


Emily and Poppy


Emily with Mummy


Emily with Mummy and big brother Josh (who will be 2 later this month)

super_elmo @ 5:00am: So, I realize that I'm risking embarrassment by posting this song without knowing anything about Mozart: The Rock Opera* or having any idea what the lyrics say**, but it's not like it has germs, so anyway.



*OMG I know, right?
**That's another thing--my French skills have been made of fail lately. When I first moved to Montreal I was really frustrated that I'd been studying for years but apparently I still sucked and would never ever be able to master it, so I went all emo and decided it would be healthier to stop trying altogether, and so I fell out of practice, but then I realized that I had a lot of repressed anger or something and that pretending I was too cool wasn't going to help, so I should adopt a more positive attitude and try to continue my lifelong learning process, but I was too lazy to stick with that resolution. In short, I no longer speak French.

That all was just an unnecessary distraction from the fact that l'Assasymphonie is WAY TOO AWESOME.

nixwilliams @ 6:37pm: fat for future reference
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amokk, posting in stupid_free @ 10:58pm: "I can't be racist, I'm a member of interracial!"
So it all begins with a white woman crying about the lack of sisterhood because some black women aren't fawning over her for dating a black man. This starts off a thread by talking_apple, which will come back up later.

witchsistah is a bit upset about the generalizations, to say the least. She brings her rage.

Another post continues the sisterhood!

neo_prodigy brings some win to the comm and explains what's going on, and talking_apple hangs on to her privilege with a death grip.

talking_apple is now unsure of what the community is for and polls the members.

After that, an entire post about talking_apple and her recent blatherings.

Well, after that, talking_apple is having none of it and flounces from the entire community and in fact starts trolling in order to get banned because she has no self-control she has no self-control.


The flounce is just what makes it, I think.

eta: and a few hours later we have flounce deletion. She was so proud of herself I didn't foresee a deletion, so I didn't get caps. Anyone?

ghost1991, posting in tguk @ 8:33pm: I have a question.
I'm FTM and thinking about going to the gp soon to tell her i'm trans and ask for a referral to a GIC ( this happens next right?)

I'm 17 at the moment but in august I will be 18, should I wait till then or go now? Does it make a difference?

Sorry for all the questions lol

Nathan.

thesobstory, posting in ftm @ 6:31pm: Coming out help!

( Coming out to my gf's small town Catholic conservative parents )

eledhwenlin @ 11:29pm: So that was that.
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ftmichael @ 12:59pm: Facebook Messages to Become Public by Default
http://blog.facebook.com/blog.php?post=98499677130

UPDATE on June 24: We've received some questions in the comments about default privacy settings for this beta. Nothing has changed with your default privacy settings. The beta is only open to people who already chose to set their profile and status privacy to "Everyone." For those people, the default for sharing from the Publisher will be the same. If you have your default privacy set to anything else — such as "Friends and Networks" or "Friends Only" — you are not part of this beta.

Today, we're launching a beta version of an improved Publisher — the main place to add content such as photos, videos, and status updates on your home page and profile. The new Publisher has been streamlined a bit, and its most significant improvement is the new Publisher Privacy Control that gives you the opportunity to answer the question, "Who do you want to tell?" as easily as you answer the question, "What's on your mind?"

You may have some posts you want to share with a wide audience, such as whom you voted for or how great the weather is today. Other times you may have more personal updates like your new phone number or an invitation to join you at your favourite restaurant for dinner that are meant for only close or nearby friends.

If you have access to this beta version, every time you publish content into your stream you are able to control which people can access that specific piece of content. After writing a status, uploading a photo or creating other content from the Publisher, use the lock icon in the lower-right corner of the Publisher to access the drop-down menu. From there, you can then choose to make the post visible to:

• Everyone: Anyone, on or off, of Facebook can see it.


• Friends and Networks: People you have confirmed as friends and people in any school or work networks that you've joined can see it.


• Friends of Friends: Anyone who is friends with a friend of yours can see it.


• Friends: Only people you have confirmed as friends can see it.


• Custom: Choose any friend or Friend List to include or exclude from seeing that piece of content.

For example, you might be comfortable with anyone enjoying the video you took at a concert, but only want your family to see photos from your family vacation. So you can choose to share the video with "Everyone" while selecting "Custom" for the photo album and choosing your Friend List for your family.

Additionally, when you add a new friend, you'll begin to start seeing posts they have set to "Everyone" before they have confirmed you as a friend.

People who had previously set their status updates and profile privacy settings to be visible to "Everyone" are included in this beta launch, but we hope to expand this to more of you soon.


Ola, an engineer at Facebook, is publishing his thoughts to everyone.

cbpotts @ 9:46am: Let's Talk About Love
This was going to be a quick, on the fly, five things make a post type of post, but instead, it is going to be a quick, on the fly post about love, and land, and writing.

Reading my reviews lately (and I'm a shameless review reader, my ego is roughly the size of Colorado, and I'm fairly adept at reading 'at best, meh' as "The best thing ever written since the DAWN OF TIME MAN, you've GOT TO READ THIS!" (which is a skill I implore all of my writer friends to develop, for verily, if they can read our stories and find meanings and messages we never thought about, much less wrote, we should have the same luxury applied to reading reviews!)) and there are numerous mentions of landscape/environment.

In both Recovery Ranch and Slow and Steady (which appeared in Animal Attraction 2 )environment mattered. Location shaped those stories: I needed the wide open empty spaces of the Texas hill country for Adam to rage against, the Professor and Rafe wouldn't have been, couldn't have been together any other place than the claustrophobic crush of green that is the Amazonian jungle. The relationship the guys had with the environment is, I would argue, just as important -- in some critical moments, even more important -- than the relationship they have with other people.

It surprises me that this is noteworthy: we are all products of our environment. I'm shaped, each and every day, by the North Country. I don't write about it as much as I should -- particularly since my passion for here, these rocks, these trees, these mountains, these tumbledown farms and icy creeks, these knots of wilderness that bump up against humanity and more often than not knock humanity on its ass is in no small part the greatest love affair of my life. Second only to Story, for abstract passions I'm willing to wreck my life for, we have being here.

Like every major relationship I have, this is an inherently flawed union: there is no communion of souls here, no deep and quiet sharing of what connects us. There is the world, and you can glory in it, reflect on it , rail against it -- but your response is immaterial: the world is going to do what the world is going to do, and your wants, needs, and desires don't really matter. With time, effort, explosives you can effect change, but only temporarily: at the end of the day -- perhaps not this day, perhaps not a hundred hundred days, but the end of some day, the earth is going to win.

That's the kind of stability one might find appealing, if one was me, which I am,so it's all good. Long story short, love need not be healthy to be love; characters need not be human to shape us, define us, to push us to grow, to tear us down. Cold comfort mountain is, in fact, a mountain.

And you can get there from here.

zero2aries @ 1:57pm: If monkeys can then why can't fanfic writers??

nixwilliams @ 8:06pm: here is a really cool thing
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sarahwilson01, posting in tguk @ 10:10am: Rhinoplasty and Tracheal Shave - Quality and Cost
Hello! I am after a decent nose job (mine is large, fifteen-times broken and way off to the right) and a tracheal shave. I'd prefer not to look like the late Mr Jackson, nor to have my voice ruined. But I am shocked by the estimate I received yesterday.

Hesham Saleh and Guri Sandhu work together and apparently do a very good job of rhinoplasties and tracheal shaves. I phoned up their secretary and now sort of wish I hadn’t.

The cost of the consultation is £200 each. The tracheal shave will cost £900. The rhinoplasty will cost between £1,500 and £3,000 (I will know at the consultation). The anaesthetist will cost £450. And the facilities at Charing Cross will cost between £3,000 and £3,700.

That means at the best, both operations will cost me £6,250. And at worst they will cost me £8,450. Even if I ditch the nose and go for the Adam’s apple, that’ll be between £4,550 and £5,250.

Does anyone have experience of good ops at beter prices?

wab, posting in tguk @ 1:29am: Unions [Marriage/Partnership]
I am attempting to clarify whether a civil partnership in my current situation would be considered legal and valid, despite being unable to provide a GRC. At the moment I have no prior union to dissolve in order to be issued with a full GRC but I am roughly 14 months away from being eligible to even apply for it. Despite this I would like to enter into a civil partnership with my current significant other.

The advice I seem to find only really makes mention of existing unions that need to be dissolved in order to acquire a GRC (and thusly create a new union). This seems to infer any union I enter would be void until I have acquired a GRC.


Can anybody here clear this up for me as I have all but given up trying to understand whether it would be valid or outright void; or even point me in the direction of a body or individual who could help?

Thank you :o)
Rhosyn.

greatsword @ 5:40pm: Still busy
Recorded the essay for Perspectives on KQED; it has a tentative broadcast scheduled next week. The car talk guys claim they have 'faces made for radio.' I've decided I have a voice made for text media. I'll post the essay publicly once it has aired; currently the radio has first broadcast/web rights. I did shorten the previously posted text a bit; it read in at 2:02 the way it was written. I cut it enough that I could leave some pauses for emphasis during the reading.

Doing a radio recording was an odd experience, but worthwhile. I don't think I'm suited to doing it for a living, however. Depending on how fired up I get about future issues, I may try it again. Being a cranky radio crackpot was kind of fun.

verberantia, posting in ftm @ 7:17pm: Just a question for those folks who are doing subcutaneous injections. What's your dosing schedule? 

I was on .5mL/two weeks for the first two shots which went fine, but today I upped my dose to .75mL and had a bit of T seep out, very pleasant. I'd like to stay at around this dose for a while to see how it goes. My doctor said there shouldn't be an issue injecting up to 1mL subcutaneously, but he's a little cavalier about the whole thing and doesn't have any other patients using this method.

Anyway, anyone injecting .75mL successfully, or is that too much for a subcutaneous injection? Would .5mL/ten days be an approximation of this dose?

_zada, posting in ftm @ 2:12pm: Checked Memories..
Hi,

I checked the memories but couldnt find anything.. I may have not looked in the right spot.

My partner and I dont have very many places in our area that sells packers if any, we have looked, nothing.
We are in Canada, I am wondering if anyone can help with a online site that he could get a packer from, preferably one with I believe it is  a STP? in the packer.

So this online store would need to ship to Canada, preferably take Paypal, if not thats ok too.
Any help would be great, thanks. I am not sure if this is more suited to ftm_in_bed

Thanks again  :)

omgangiepants, posting in stupid_free @ 3:48pm: I don't even know where to start with this one but holy fuck at this whole thread on ontd_political.

"Let me ask you something before I go - because I enjoy fucking with people in pathetically whitewashed worlds like yours. When Paul McCartney dies, do you really, truly believe that there won't be peace in the ghetto?"

I called troll pretty much instantly but one look at biggy_shorty's personal journal and yes everything is about race with him/her.

feath @ 1:51pm: google strikes again
( naughty bits )